Well, it's not going to kill you

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Yes, I freely admit I can be a mean and nasty person.  I don't tolerate fools gladly.  I can put great thought into my sarcastic responses and have them cut to the quick if I so chose.  I don't do it often but when I do watch out.

Bless me Father for I have sinned

It's been I haven't a clue how many years since my last confession but here we go

Yes, I have been baiting people over at km.adamsspace.com again.  It starts out innocent, trying to get a logical answer to one of her posts.  Then the mudslinging and the slurs start and I can't seem to help myself.  I get right in there with them.  Stupid, ignorant - no bad, cathy, bad

I did stop commenting today as the lunatic fringe came out to play, why encourage him or her.  I had made a comment about bride burning in India.  In reply LF said it's only women against women - it's not - as if that were perfectly acceptable.  He/she then said that if it was their blog they would have banned me right away so I input the wikipedia definition of "freedom of speech".  He/she also mentioned that I made sexist remarks while he/she referred to women as mentally ill and the other posters refer to feminists as moral lepers, spiritually depraved and the like.  So I posted "pot, kettle mean anything to you?"

Yes I know it's wrong but I can't promise not to do it again because it's just so fun to watch them foam at the mouth, calling anything I say unfounded and without logic while expecting me to accept their words as gospel.  As I've said before since dealing with cancer my tolerance for stupidity is just not what it used to be.

For my penance I promise not to visit that website for at least a week.

ps - if Eliza were up to it I'd send her there in a second.  She'd have them so wrapped up in words about what being a real feminist is they'd never know what hit them.  Or maybe Jen, or Snickollet, or Nate

 or Pundit Mom.  or, or, or, 

Friday's feast

I found this blog fridaysfeast.com by way of Nikki's blog.

Every Friday there is a feast of the mind so I've decided to join.

Here's Feast number One Hundred and ninety one:

Appetizer

What is the nearest big city to your home?  San Francisco

Soup

On a scale of 1-10 with 10 being highest, how well do you keep secrets? 9

Salad

Describe your hair (color, texture, length).  Short, very thick (even thicker since I had chemo) and newly red w/gold highlights that I paid a small fortune for.

Main Course

What kind of driver are you?  Courteous?  Aggressive?  Slow?  Aggressive but courteous, yes I know It's a contradiction but that's me.

Dessert

When was the last time you had a really bad week?  That would have been the last week in April, just sucked all the way around.

Nikki started it!

with this simple challange

Here's mine: Next it's your turn! http://www.blogthings.com/thefivefactorpersonalitytest

We've found eerily similar traits in each other.  Our personality test comes out very close.

I'm 

Your Five Factor Personality Profile

Extroversion:

You have medium extroversion.

You're not the life of the party, but you do show up for the party.

Sometimes you are full of energy and open to new social experiences.

But you also need to hibernate and enjoy your "down time."

Conscientiousness:

You have medium conscientiousness.

You're generally good at balancing work and play.

When you need to buckle down, you can usually get tasks done.

But you've been known to goof off when you know you can get away with it.

Agreeableness:

You have high agreeableness.

You are easy to get along with, and you value harmony highly.

Helpful and generous, you are willing to compromise with almost anyone.

You give people the benefit of the doubt and don't mind giving someone a second chance.

Neuroticism:

You have low neuroticism.

You are very emotionally stable and mentally together.

Only the greatest setbacks upset you, and you bounce back quickly.

Overall, you are typically calm and relaxed - making others feel secure.

Openness to experience:

Your openness to new experiences is high.

In life, you tend to be an early adopter of all new things and ideas.

You'll try almost anything interesting, and you're constantly pushing your own limits.

A great connoisseir of art and beauty, you can find the positive side of almost anything.

the only variation is our level of agreeableness, I apparently am a bit more agreeable but I think that's just in public :)

Then I started taking other tests

What Color Is Your Personality?

Take this color quiz to discover which of the four colors best represents your personality. Are you tickled pink, natural green, fiery red or somber blue? You cannot make a wrong choice in this color test. Open your mind and find out how color affects your life by taking the personality color quiz!

 

Your Results:

Blue Violet

Blue colors your world with emotion. You seldom jump right in, preferring to stand back and watch people and situations closely. Blue people are calm, but can also spiral into sadness. With so much emotion, tears of happiness, sadness, anger, or frustration are quite common.

You Are 16% Capitalist, 84% Socialist

You see a lot of injustice in the world, and you'd like to see it fixed.

As far as you're concerned, all the wrong people have the power.

You're strongly in favor of the redistribution of wealth - and more protection for the average person. 

Your Animal Personality

Your Power Animal: Eagle

Animal You Were in a Past Life: Whale

You are active, a challenger, and optimistic.

Hard-working, you are always working towards a set goal. 

And last but not least I'm a medium maintenance woman.

Oh, this is going to stir things up! Update 1

The California Supreme Court has spoken.  California ban on same sex marriage is struck down.  Much to everyone's amazement because the majority of the justices are Republican appointees.

Here in the SF Bay Area, ok so Sonoma Co is the outer edge of the Bay Area, there is dancing in the streets and fear.  Count me in, it's about time.  There is no reason my gay and lesbian friends should not have the same right and responibilies of marriage that LR and I have.

You can understand the dancing in the streets, the fear is a bit more nebulous.  Many people are worried that the Repubs will now use this as an issue to get votes for McCain.  Because. omg, judges are legislating from the bench again!  I don't understand the whole legislating from the bench concept myself.  It seems like a pretty straight up interpretation of the law but then I'm not a lawyer or a conservative pundit.

I actually heard someone on KGO radio today say that because same sex marriage will be legal in 30 days people will start waking up in the morning and deciding that they are gay/lesbian and leave their marriage and children.  Oh and now the law requires gay marriage.  Um, WHAT?  How do you get there from here?  We also have the obligatory slippery slope guy.  If 2 gay men can marry why can't 3, what about marrying your dog, etc.?  And the this will threaten heterosexual marriage!  Frankly if my, or any heterosexual marriage, is threatened by gay marriage we've got big troubles to begin with.

I'll stop here because I'm listening and reading.  I may update, I may not.

TTFA

(ta ta for now, thank you Winnie the Pooh)

Update 1 - the radio speaker was Randy Thomasson, founder and president of theCampaign for Children and Families; they are the group responsible for the ballot push against gay marriage 

Grab the chance to see this movie

Internets, if at all possible go see this movie

Young at Heart  note the site is very slow to load

But the movie, fabulous, funny, heartbreaking, heart lifting, you won't regret seeing it.

It chronicles a senior (77 - 92) chorus in New England.

A total and complete delight.

In Sonoma CO it's playing at the Rialto so in your area it's probably considered an art film. FIND IT, SEE IT!

Silence is golden

For the past 2 days rather than turning on CNN as soon as we get up in the morning we've left the tv off.  That's right off.

No paranoid leaders in Burma refusing to let relief workers in, no earthquake in China, no election, no devastating wildfires in Florida, just quiet.

Beautiful delightful quiet.  I can hear the birds chirp and the wind blowing through the trees.  I can hear the cats talk to me and the dog snore as he sleeps.  I've discovered my mind is much more peaceful at the end of the day.

I think we should do this more often.

And we're off!

More accurately we were off yesterday but we were so busy making sure the links worked, the correct donors were listed, things were spelled correctly and just generally housecleaning that I forgot to mention it.

bidpink.cmarket.com has gone live!  Dancing in the streets is appropriate here people.  This was a lot of work.

The begging, the posting, the picture taking, the spelling, the linking, just a lot of work!  Yea to Pam Koppel,  the IIH program director for the idea, getting it organized and doing most of the work.  The Advisory Council gathered donations and a couple of us input, spellchecked and linked our way to going live.

So get over there and bid.  Surely you'll find something to your liking.  All proceeds go to the Sutter Breast Care Center Integrative Health and Healing program.  And a wonderful program it is.  

Oh my aching face

Why my face you ask?

Well it happened like this.  Our friend Deb and her friend John came from Roseville yesterday because we are buying her old car.  A lovely little Mercedes SUV that has better gas mileage than the truck AND can hold 4 people.  Novel concept isn't it?  It's always a pain when we go somewhere in groups as the truck is our only good vehicle but only holds 2 people.  But I digress.

We did a little winetasting then hit Barndiva for drinks and appetizers.  There were blood orange margahritas,

On the Beach with Fidels, bellinis, lemon drops and specially concocted martinis.  There was also grilled shrimp and braised duck spring rolls to die for.

Then we strolled a few blocks to have dinner at Willi's Seafood Bar.  Of course there were more drinks, wine, manhattans, more lemon drops and cucumber martini's (GREAT).  There were french fries, tuna tartare, steamed clams, calamari, garlic bread and one more thing I don't remember.

After we came home we decided we needed to drink still more, do not ask my why I think we were all possessed yesterday, so we had some wine and some more.  The reason my face aches is the wine was red.  

I'm so allergic but I love red wine so sometimes I just have to drink it.  We will not speak about how the rest of my body feels.  Suffice it to say none of us were in great shape this morning.  We all remarked that 1) we're not as young as we used to be and 2) we were totally insane.

Two years ago today.

Can you even believe that Internets?  Two years ago today Amy called and said "it's not going to kill you".

She was right, it didn't kill me but it changed me in ways I'm still discovering.

On one hand it seems as if it was ssooo long ago on the other it feels as if it was just last week.  I look at my scars everyday when I get dressed.  The one from surgery, the one from the sentinal node biopsy and the one from the port.  That's the one I can actually see most of the time because it's on my upper chest.  Then there are the radiation polka dots.  Most people don't know that they're there because I have so many freckles but I know they there and why they where put there and that they'll always be there.  Just like the scars in my mind and in my heart.

But, I'm still here, still going (mostly) strong and plan to be here for a long time to come!